Anonymous asked: A friend of mine at school has been talking to a girl she's not very good friends with about her issues. She's told my friend that she isn't eating and she showed her friend the cuts, and said that her addiction has been taken away from her (that being her scissors). She's not talking to me about it, and I don't know why. Is there anything I can say to her?

Answer:

How do you know that the two of them aren’t very good friends? Just because it seems like two people aren’t close, or that they wouldn’t be because of different social groups doesn’t mean they aren’t.
Is your friend telling the girl about her problems, or is the girl telling your friend about her problems?
The most common reason for not telling your friends about your eating issues or depression or self harm is usually for a couple of reasons, such as embarrassment, fear of judgement, secrecy, and trust issues.
Depending on how long your friend has had these issues for, she may be at different stages of it. When you first start, you’re very confused about what’s happening, but I don’t really think that it’s until you’re in the middle of your situation that you begin to get embarrassed about it. 
Your friend could be feeling any number of these things at the moment, but it may also simply be the fact that she doesn’t want to get any better. Usually when people with mental disorders talk to people about it, its usually because the other person has one too, because they’re less likely to judge, and also more likely to agree.
If we don’t want help, then we won’t talk to someone who’s likely to be supportive about it, and someone who we think won’t understand what we’re going through. It’s so hard to understand when you aren’t going through it.
Maybe just let her know that you’re there for her if she ever needs to talk, and let her know that you love her. Don’t pressure her into saying anything, if she wants to she will. Best of luck 

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